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Respecting my parents' wishes

... Respecting my parents' wishes story, communication, respect, heart surgery, independence This week's storyteller is Clare Tanner. Clare was taken by surprise when her aunt told her that her mum was having heart surgery. She had no idea and she told us about ...

Slowing down

... Slowing down relationships, respect, balance, The changes that our parents are undergoing can be frustrating for everyone concerned. Understanding what's happening and being patient is important for our relationships. It's really hard to do. Slowing down to the speed of ageing parents. ...

How tradition makes living with dad the obvious choice

... have all agreed on ground rules and as things occur that challenge one or other of us we talk about them. We all have respect for each other and our home. On the other hand, it isn't easy to catch up with the girls and socialising can ...

I'm struggling with my aunt's reliance on me as her carer

... , distant cousin or family friend. Elderly people can appear stubborn and resistant to change. It sounds like you love your aunt and respect her right to make her own decisions in later life. But your email made me feel quite worried as I see quite a ...

Caring for a father with Parkinson's

... . Chris tells the sad story of his brilliant father's degeneration due to Parkinson's, and how the family managed his care with love and respect. My father at 83 started to become very slow, and slightly doddery, and for him that was not normal. He ...

Four questions to ask a new live-in carer to start building a relationship

... or make them feel even more frustrated? Experience tells us that carers need to show qualities such as empathy, kindness, patience and respect, and that every successful candidate is an exceptional communicator. A good care organisation will take the time to look for these qualities ...

How do I help my elderly parent bathe?

... homes and are for patients that are completely bedridden rather than those who just require a little bit of support. Care, empathy and respect are the only ways to manage this process. What are the things you need to think about when planning a walk-in bath or ...

When families can't agree on care

... is less conflict. If you could find someone to mediate, that could help keep things cool- perhaps a family friend who is respected by everyone. Agree that the purpose is to put differences aside and discuss how you can best work as a 'team' in ...

Tips on choosing a holiday with parents

... how much time you want to spend as a group and how much space they can have from the oldies. Remind them to be respectful of their grandparents' space and privacy. It's their holiday too! If you're booking UK accommodation, you can check whether your ...

Top tips on making life easier for someone with dementia

... eating out. Why not use a spoon to eat fish? Although pizza with a spoon is a challenge. It's good to be respectful whatever our parent's behaviour, and encourage others to be too. Staff in shops and restaurants aren't always trained to deal with dementia ...